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Close Yet Far

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Absence makes the heart grow fonder. Or so it’s said. Silence has the power to speak volumes, without risk of sounding like a broken record. Even as I linger on Instagram, Pinterest and Spotify, my decision to abandon other platforms was motivated by continued frustration, calling someone’s bluff and the collective noise of those with mental illness driven narcissism & victimhood mentality spawned by daily faux outrage du jour.  Lately, I’ve been finding myself asking the same questions as before. Knowing, I will never receive answers. Even as 2025 began, it was a year knowing I would eventually find myself walking away from yet another platform. Going silent and locking up each account I still have left. As the year proceeded, I kept busy with the knowledge I would be attending college again. A path influenced by someone who left me not only in emotional turmoil but helped me also gain a sense of clarity via a 3rd party. I don’t hang out on Reddit much. It’s not a site I would...
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Friendships, Loyalty & Trust: My Journey Towards Healing & Learning Difficult Lessons

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Friendship these days is like a game of Russian Roulette. Either you’ll never have to worry or you wind up with the bullet leaving the chamber. Frankly, I’m no stranger to walking away from former friends. I’ve left behind a trail of severed connections, all with their own reason & history. Of the many friendships I had, I can’t help looking back with regret. But also with an understanding without those various personalities, I wouldn’t be who and where I am today! Stronger & wiser. At the same time, wishing I could go back and change the inevitable outcome. Despite this, I still managed to get myself out of a bad situation. Albeit with several scars along the way. Like any relationship either romantic or platonic, the most important element is TRUST . One of those sayings I and many others have grown up with is: “you can pick your friends, but you can’t pick your family.” But what if those certain friends in your life become family? I don’t have a great relationship with my...
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Location: Windsor, ON, Canada
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The Psychology of a Hater: A True Social Media Story

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What is the psychology of a hater? According to the Huffington Post : The psychology of a hater is someone imposing their self-hate onto others. It’s not as much about you, as it is about them. According to Psychology Today : a phenomenon known as projection, (coined by Austrian neurologist Sigmund Freud) describes a tendency to reject what we don’t like about ourselves with a desire to fill the void due to a lack of self-compassion. Demonstrating some people’s feelings of inadequacy. Having walked away from Facebook & those I assumed were my “friends” in 2016, the last thing I wanted was to find myself once again involved with noxious characters. Sadly, that is what I encountered in mid 2021. Someone who I believed was a genuine fan of the same Finnish rock band, I also enjoy musically. Unfortunately discovering instead, a mentally unbalanced individual, obsessed with rock stars, sex, drugs & rock n’ roll and now terrifyingly; someone who is also obsessed with me! In my po...
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Location: Windsor, ON, Canada
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Toxic Fandoms: Social Media and Why it’s Difficult To Be a Fan Today

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Fan bases should leave a sense of community. Where people share their love of music for a band, group or artist & experiences of concerts and meet & greets. Not where people are turned away at the door for whatever reason. That's not a community. Take it from someone who knows! But what does it mean to be a fan these days? Especially, in the sphere of social media? As someone who once ran a fan group on Facebook, one thing I learned is: Responsible admins always cater not only to fans, but also to the bands, groups and artists they promote. Think of it as Public Relations: a page that promotes an upcoming project, music video and/or album. However, being a fan can be difficult in the age of social media. After private conversations over Twitter, I encountered I wasn’t alone in being blocked by an Instagram page claiming to promote a band from Finland. One, I was newly familiar with. A page I myself had ZERO interaction with, but became aware of only to find myself blocked f...
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